Starting the Discussion on Dealing with and Healing from Sexual Harassment and the Retaliation that Often Comes from Standing Up Against It
Dear Readers, “What do you do when the boss of an abuser does nothing to reprimand? They were a witness.” This was one of the questions at a recent seminar on how to stand up against sexual harassment. I am saddened by this question. Not shocked. Just saddened. The attendees were mostly women, some men, and mostly in the early […]
» Read moreIt was such a pleasure being a part of the inaugural Rady Women’s Forum last weekend, Discussions and Action Plans for Vibrant Leaders! The student-led, Rady admissions-supported event was filled with empowering sessions. I attended the two sessions immediately before mine and took away many suggestions for mindfulness and some very good negotiation tactics! I was sad not to be […]
» Read moreGood mental health is a cornerstone to recovering from sexual harassment. It definitely has been for me. Here is what I have learned so far. Whether you are the victim of this, witness to this or mental health expert, if you have experience with the positive impact this kind of treatment can offer to help you deal with and heal […]
» Read moreOn my first day as an Intern on a children’s TV show, the producer pinned/cornered me against a wall behind bleachers (where his pregnant wife and the audience was sitting) and propositioned me. I never returned to that job or the industry. Instead, I drove home, crying and heartbroken. In my mind, there wasn’t really anything I could do, other than […]
» Read moreSo I’m reading Jennifer Pharr Davis’ Becoming Odyssa to learn more about what it means to be a thru hiker on the Appalachian Trail. I plan to hike a section of the trail next summer. I love the read. It’s real and human and reveals a lot about the trail. It also reinforces my notion that being out in nature is […]
» Read moreI say this loudly and I say this boldly…the Weinstein case is just another of many examples of a systemic problem. People in positions of power who sexually harass their workers and intimidate them into non-action must be stopped. Their behavior must change. It can no longer endure for decades. As a CEO, as a C-Suite member, as middle manager, […]
» Read moreDear Readers, I want to tell you about a time I wailed, I mean really WAILED. I was almost 2 years into my pain. I had stood up against my supervisor for winking at me and asked him to stop. He refused and then, in my opinion, proceeded to retaliate against me for having stood up against him. No matter […]
» Read moreDear Readers, Sadly, I missed sending out announcements for the last two “The 5th is for Flowers”… September’s was over Labor Day and it made sense to just enjoy the weekend. October’s was this week. Wow. What a week to have missed! My goal is to have this site be a source of help and healing for those experiencing sexual […]
» Read moreIt’s time for some phrases to R.I.P… It strikes me that it is time to put to rest a number of phrases in our common vernacular that are simply no longer appropriate to say, especially on the playing field and in the workplace. I want to hear your thoughts on this but I am very nervous about where the comments might […]
» Read more“If You’re Going Through Hell,” as Rodney Atkins tells it, it helps to have a little bit of child-like fun to take along with you. At least, I found this to be helpful. With long, difficult days, I found creating a little moment each day to smile helped a whole lot. I have since been learning that the act of smiling […]
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