Starting the Discussion on Dealing with and Healing from Sexual Harassment and the Retaliation that Often Comes from Standing Up Against It
Dear Readers, especially HR experts, Deciding to report sexual harassment is often a difficult choice to make. There are many risks and often few benefits. However, it is within our rights to ask for it to stop and to ask others to help us stop it. We want to empower women and men to stand up to gender-based harassment, with […]
» Read moreTwo different people in an audience of 40 in my conference session at Rady had almost the same identical question: How can we be better support to others? What’s the best way to be “social support” for someone who needs it? First of all, I LOVE that this question came up. It tells me that there are loving hearts out […]
» Read moreDear Readers, “What do you do when the boss of an abuser does nothing to reprimand? They were a witness.” This was one of the questions at a recent seminar on how to stand up against sexual harassment. I am saddened by this question. Not shocked. Just saddened. The attendees were mostly women, some men, and mostly in the early […]
» Read moreIt was such a pleasure being a part of the inaugural Rady Women’s Forum last weekend, Discussions and Action Plans for Vibrant Leaders! The student-led, Rady admissions-supported event was filled with empowering sessions. I attended the two sessions immediately before mine and took away many suggestions for mindfulness and some very good negotiation tactics! I was sad not to be […]
» Read moreGood mental health is a cornerstone to recovering from sexual harassment. It definitely has been for me. Here is what I have learned so far. Whether you are the victim of this, witness to this or mental health expert, if you have experience with the positive impact this kind of treatment can offer to help you deal with and heal […]
» Read moreOn my first day as an Intern on a children’s TV show, the producer pinned/cornered me against a wall behind bleachers (where his pregnant wife and the audience was sitting) and propositioned me. I never returned to that job or the industry. Instead, I drove home, crying and heartbroken. In my mind, there wasn’t really anything I could do, other than […]
» Read moreSo I’m reading Jennifer Pharr Davis’ Becoming Odyssa to learn more about what it means to be a thru hiker on the Appalachian Trail. I plan to hike a section of the trail next summer. I love the read. It’s real and human and reveals a lot about the trail. It also reinforces my notion that being out in nature is […]
» Read moreI say this loudly and I say this boldly…the Weinstein case is just another of many examples of a systemic problem. People in positions of power who sexually harass their workers and intimidate them into non-action must be stopped. Their behavior must change. It can no longer endure for decades. As a CEO, as a C-Suite member, as middle manager, […]
» Read moreDear Readers, I want to tell you about a time I wailed, I mean really WAILED. I was almost 2 years into my pain. I had stood up against my supervisor for winking at me and asked him to stop. He refused and then, in my opinion, proceeded to retaliate against me for having stood up against him. No matter […]
» Read moreDear Readers, Sadly, I missed sending out announcements for the last two “The 5th is for Flowers”… September’s was over Labor Day and it made sense to just enjoy the weekend. October’s was this week. Wow. What a week to have missed! My goal is to have this site be a source of help and healing for those experiencing sexual […]
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