Starting the Discussion on Dealing with and Healing from Sexual Harassment and the Retaliation that Often Comes from Standing Up Against It
“All is Fair in Love and War” A new card game to resolve conflicts OK so most people know how to play the game of War in cards. There are two players. The players divide the deck in half between them. “War Begins” when you each throw down a card at a time, face up. The player with the highest […]
» Read moreThis post is related to the conversation mentioned in my last blog post, Getting the Delivery Right. So there I was talking with this new friend about sexual harassment scenarios in the workplace… He was confessing that he could call a particular colleague by the pet name “Babe” when they were together, but not in front of her husband. I did […]
» Read moreI sat down at the bar at a local foodie place to have breakfast and read a book on how to write book proposals. It was a working breakfast. I had a mission. I was completely fine being alone at the bar and eating my food when the guy next to me started up a conversation… “What is the book […]
» Read moreI think it helps to tell our stories. Talking about our experiences helps us to recover. It also helps the rest of us know how common the problem is. So I woke up this morning wondering what other stories are already out there. I did a quick Google search and quickly came up with a list of personal stories about harassment, […]
» Read moreThanks to some really great coaches, teachers and mentors, as well as a few good books, movies and songs, I know that it is easier for me to get through things when I give myself little goals or milestones to hit along the way. During my recovery, sometimes I would set conscious milestones and sometimes I would realize in hindsight […]
» Read moreI recently watched “High Fidelity” with John Cusack. This is one of my favorite movies. The main character is a music shop owner/DJ and has a Top 5 song list for almost every life experience. Ever since I watched it, I have been collecting my own unwritten lists for myself. I play them when I need connection. Top 5 Songs […]
» Read moreSo when I first started seeing a therapist to help me deal with the trauma of my experience, she gave me a series of exercises to do. I was a bit confused by this concept because I thought therapy was about talking it out. And here she was asking me to ‘do’ something. It took me a long time to […]
» Read moreI get it…when we are oppressed, we are fearful of speaking out. The history books are filled with the names of people who have spoken out and who have subsequently gotten persecuted, retaliated against, for standing up for their rights. Sexual harassment is an act of oppression. So given our history, it makes all the sense in the world that […]
» Read moreDear Readers, It takes courage. It takes courage to risk everything to speak up about sexual harassment. Don’t believe me? Just think about how long the 46 women who are accusing Bill Cosby stayed silent. It is a powerful message to now see them banded together in the New York Magazine’s cover this week. I don’t know Lalita Amos, but […]
» Read more[The names and places have been deleted from this story in order to protect the person sharing it. By scrubbing these details, I hope that this will help us all to focus on becoming aware of the behavior and on learning ways to cope with the pain/shame/hurt and deal appropriately with the behavior.] “I was sexually harassed at work for […]
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