Scenario #27: Get to Full Bloom & Take Control of Your Life with S.M.A.R.T.P. Goals for Q3 2020
You can only control your own thoughts, words and actions. To take control of your life, you need a plan of action. To help you with that, you need S.M.A.R.T.P. goals. They will point you in the right direction, help you take control and get to Full Bloom.
With this in mind, every 12 weeks, Getting Ready invites each one of us to gather with 2-3 of our friends. With this trusted circle, look back at your journaling and summarize your reflections. On the left page, celebrate the knowledge, skills and abilities (KSAs) you have already developed to successfully face sexual harassment in the workplace. On the right page, articulate the KSAs you need to develop.
- In what ways are you already “ready” to handle those situations?
- In what ways are do you need to “get ready” to handle them?
Once you done that, you can begin to write your personal growth plan for the next 3 months (Scenario #27). This plan is about maintaining the KSAs for your answers to the 1st question and developing the KSAs your answers to the 2nd.
Of course, we want our growth plans to be guided by S.M.A.R.T. goals. And the Unbeatable Mind Coach in me wants to also add the P at the end – Positively Stated.
Specific. Measurable. Attainable. Realistic/Relevant. Timebound. Positively Stated.
So, here are some possible S.M.A.R.T. P. goals for each of the 5 petals for Quarter 3 in 2020, based on the three Scenarios we focused on in Q2 – Scenarios 15, 18, and 23 – dealing with harassment issues for pilots, law enforcement officers and single women in positions of power.
Between today and the 1st of October, I will…
- Wear clothing to and from the women’s locker room that is functional, comfortable to wear and minimizes the objectification of my body for or by others.
- Memorize 3-4 jokes that I enjoy telling in mixed company when joke telling behavior crosses the line of appropriateness so that I can be perceived has humorous yet redirect the tone and intention of the joke telling session to a more appropriate topic.
- Mediate at least once a week on my relationship with the person I love and want to marry with the intention of getting clear with regard to our balance of power and financial equity.
- Find at least 3 insights from Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In by the end of October that I can actively apply to my own experience.
- Find at least 3 insights from Jennifer Crittenden’s book The Discreet Guide by the end of October that I can actively apply to my own experience.
- Journal at least once a week about my reflections and insights on the progress I make on the other four petals to be sure that my thoughts, words and actions bring me joy. If they don’t, I will adjust the goals and my behavior so that they do, or at least move me closer to finding joy.
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Good luck and let us know how it goes for you!
Getting Ready: A Journal to Help You Deal with and Heal from Sexual Harassment, by Sara Jones, was published in 2018 for victims, survivors, witnesses, harassers and HR/Supervisor types to reflect on ways that they can hurt or help themselves and others when faced with a sexual harassment scenario. The goal of the journal is to help us prepare for those horrid, awkward moments so that we can all successfully navigate through them and get back to doing the work we were hired to do. Read more about this topic and find other resources to end sexual harassment in the workplace at www.storiesfromathenasgarden.com.
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